Here is a question for you: can you guess four of the most powerful words in a job search? From the following choices, A, B, C, or D, which answer would you choose as the correct one?
A. Will you hire me?
B. What is the problem?
C. Give me a break.
D. None of the above.
So, which answer did you choose: A, B, C, or D? While all four answers could be said at some point in your search, I’d go with D – none of the above. And here’s why. After working with hundreds and hundreds of job seekers, I have come to believe with a vast amount of conviction that four of the most powerful words in job search are these: I need your help.
I need your help is something that – according to many job seekers I have helped -- requires courage. And humility. And vulnerability. It requires setting aside pride and ego – for the moment, anyway – to say words you might not want to say as a job seeker: I need your help.
As a counselor to those in career transition, clients have taught me that it takes much courage to state with clarity and confidence: I need your help. When I inquire as to why it takes so much courage and humility to say “I need your help,” I am often told that “a weak person says such things – not a strong person.”
“I don’t want to be perceived as a weak candidate.”
“I don’t want people to think less of me.”
“I don’t want people to think I am a loser or something.”
Today is the day to forget about pride and ego and weakness and being a loser. Today is the day to reach out to those in your network and say with sureness and certainty: I need your help.
And a crazy thing happens.
You get help.
You get a job.