Earlier this week, my client offered….”So, what you are saying is that I need to 'censor' myself and how I speak about myself.” While I hadn’t said those exact words, my client had deduced the essence of our conversation. Here is a definition of censor when used as a verb:
“examine (a book, movie, etc.) officially and suppress unacceptable parts of it.”
Choose your words carefully when given the chance, jobseekers; someone who has your future in their hands is listening to you and making decisions about you – whether it is in your favor, or not. If you tell an HR Manager or corporate recruiter that you hate your current job, that your boss is a jerk and that you despise looking for work, consider how you are diminishing your chances of getting hired with each additional negative word or thought expressed.
Examine your language to determine what can stay, what needs to go and what words warrant an upgrade in your networking and interview conversations.
Negative-sounding language will likely be used against you in a professional job interview. Once you start skidding toward the ditch with negative language, consider how each additional negative-sounding exchange may move you closer to the exit door.
Set yourself up to succeed when writing your résumé or sharing information about yourself and your story. Before you write your résumé and before you go to an interview, carefully contemplate the language you would like to convey about the wonderful product – you!
Offer words to your listening audience that engage and connect versus disengage and disconnect. If one of your networking connections or a hiring manager asks you “How’s it going today” and you reply…Oh you know, SSDD (same stuff different day), consider how the conversation may not go much further.
Realize that you are in full control of the words you select to speak about you and your amazing, unique and distinct brand. Purposefully and intentionally decide the words you will use to speak about yourself. Respect and honor the numerous gifts you have been given and keep sharing the good news about your knowledge, skills, abilities and value until someone, somewhere proclaims:
“We want to hire Y O U!”