One of the recent topics of conversation with a client had to do with garbage, trash, baggage and forgiveness. Have you had such a conversation with someone or perhaps even with yourself? Let’s say that you got fired from your most recent job. Let’s say that your most recent job was over a year ago. Let’s say that you are still very disappointed over losing that job and haven’t had any luck finding a new one. Let’s say that one day you meet a career management professional.
The career management professional invites you to share in a
conversation about any garbage in your little red wagon – the imaginary one
that you drag around with you, even though it is full and heavy and zaps all of
your energy day in, day out. You are invited to give each piece of garbage in
your little red wagon a name. And so you do.
Lack of Motivation.
And you continue giving each piece of garbage a name until all are named. And then you have a conversation about each single piece of garbage in your little red wagon. Which leads to yet another conversation about forgiveness.
Forgiveness for the person who fired you.
Forgiveness for the team member present at your termination -- the person you thought was your trusted friend.
Forgiveness for yourself.
And over a period of time, piece by piece, you start dumping your garbage. You notice how your little red wagon feels lighter. Less cumbersome. You find yourself dragging it around less and less as you go to more and more networking events. And one day, out of the blue, you are referred to a company for a job that you would be “just perfect for.” The Hiring Manager treats you with respect and professionalism and values your talents. The Selection Team meets. They choose you. You have a new job. A new start date. You sign off on all the paperwork.
You realize that your little red wagon is almost empty of garbage.
And you find yourself full of anticipation.
For the first time in a long time.
A renewed sense of purpose.
And relief. And a calmness and a peace about you.
And a genuine happiness about moving on.
To a new way forward.
"Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself." ~ Harriet Nelson