When you go on a corporate date (job interview) are you contemplating an offer of marriage from the employer, or do you expect to find out a little bit more about the one you are with?
Maybe you have even compiled a list of qualities you desire in a job (or in a mate). I love lists – reading them, making them, modifying them. Somewhere in an old Gregg shorthand notebook, there is a list of specifications of the person I hoped I would one day meet and share my life with. I don’t need the notebook to recall the specifications I scribbled:
…Tall; values education; smart; well read; high standards, motivated; sense of humor;
from somewhere else; loves music; good conversationalist; fun; loves to travel…
The next time you go on a job interview (corporate date), take a step back and decide that you will go to the meeting to share and to learn – no more, no less – and not to get married on-the-spot. Share something of value about your credentials and their relevance to the job. Freely offer information to make it easy for the recruiter or hiring manager to gain a quick snapshot of you, who you are and what you bring to the table. And while on your date, learn as much as you can about the organization, its people, products, services, mission, values, vision, etc. The more you know, the more you can make an informed decision regarding your future.
Maybe you will have a good time on your corporate date. Maybe your date will be horrible, terrible, awful, and totally suck. Maybe you will never hear from them again. Maybe they will never hear from you again. Brands attract. Brands repel. Some people will love you and your brand; other people – not so much. Just like dating.
If that corporate date doesn’t work out, no problem – back to the drawing board and on to the next. Job search – a whole lot like dating; you may have to go on many, many different corporate dates to find the right someone to marry.
You can go into a field and try to catch a horse and chase your horse all over the place and you’ll never get your hands on it. But if you go into a field and sit down on the grass, whoa! Probably within five minutes that horse will come to you. I think that’s how it is with people too. – Anjelica Huston