A few weeks ago, I was standing in the lobby of a branch bank depositing a small insurance refund. When it was my turn, I indicated to the teller I wasn’t sure how to process the check and needed his guidance. Another bank representative who came over to help the teller very matter-of-factly stated: Write your mother’s name on the back of the check and then state deceased after it. Of course the bank professional was doing her job and apparently, I did mine…I started crying like a baby. Both the teller and the bank representative looked at me like I had 12 heads.
I am sorry.
I cannot do this today.
I am not ready to write “deceased” after my mother’s name.
The bank representative did it for me.
Have a great day I was told.
When I got back to my car, I sat there thinking: “What’s up with you, Sucher?” Are you going crazy? Are you losing it? Nope, not crazy at all I proclaimed to self; I was simply missing my precious Mom. I was grieving her loss. I was not ready to write “deceased” on anything including the back of that silly check. This week, I am prepared to do such a thing – a few weeks ago, no way.
Triggers. Words. Actions. Things that get us going.
I have worked with hundreds and hundreds of individuals who have lost their jobs. One of the many things we focus on is “Interview when you are ready.”
Interview when you are ready means that you are fully prepared to address the job loss.
Interview when you are ready means that you can talk about the person who fired you with positivity.
Interview when you are ready means that you won’t go to the interview and start crying when a particular word, phrase or question is presented to you.
Interview when you are ready means that you are emotionally ready to talk about your past, your present, your future.
Interview when you are ready means that you can manage an interview conversation so that it works for you, not against you.
Interview when you are ready means that you will keep it together instead of fall apart when you talk about your job loss experience.
Are you ready to interview?